A little birdie dropped by with a message, Open and rejuvenate!
Rejuvenating love in relationships can be a hard work at times; but not if your true souls desire is to serve and show unconditionally to your partner that “Love never fails.” Relationships produce love. So within that relationship you will be obligated to produce “selfless love.” Willingly, Compassionately, and most of all passionately. Love is the greatest and most harmonious feeling anyone can embody.
Now that we have described a little of what love is to be. How do we relate ” Relationships into Love?” We all have been in a place in our relationship where it becomes conflicted, distant, boring or even non-intimate. You either make it work or move on without any effort at all from one or both parties. The truth of the matter is that if you don’t fight for your relationship to have a foundation and built love then you may be running and cutting ties more frequently than not. There are couples who strive to keep the love and connection ALIVE throughout their relationship. It is definitely hard work and pressure. Discover a few ways to keep it rejuvenated and feeling like a grand honeymoon everyday right in your atmosphere!
1. Stay open and curious to new things.
You can choose to be open to learning or experiencing; or unconsciously choosing to not experience with forms of withdrawal, anger, resentment or even revenge which none are done in love. All these forms of control including others create a hostile environment that does not support love and intimacy. At first the excitement of a new relationship wares into a boring state. If both people are open to learning something new about their partner it equips them to grow and create newness. Examples can be Long walks, Lunch, mirror and card notes, flowers, a spontaneous picnic, or even a simple favorite bag of chips or candy bar that you know will brighten their day. The thought comes before the action and the actions allows you to express your love and the love expressed allows the person to feel what you are transferring from your heart to theirs…… Got it? Okay! Now let’s roll.
2. Opening your heart and being VULNERABLE.
While we connect intellectually; we also connect emotionally when we are open-hearted. It creates passion and intimacy. That will always make you vulnerable to the elements. See when you start to unfiltering who you really are and allow your partner to get to know “the real you” that’s when it gets tricky! It’s this vulnerability of letting each other in on your struggles and your loving nature. That is what fosters and build love. Take responsibility for your own feelings; and your partner for their owns.
3. Practice presence.
When we focus on past events and not leaving the past in the past; we ARE NOT present with our partners/spouses. I once was so wrapped up in the activity of social media that I lost being present with my loved one. Sometimes you don’t realize that you may have a curve in your presence until it is brought to your attention. How do you respond to it? Do you acknowledge it and correct it or do you push it off as another rant? Understand it all makes a difference when someone is void in an area they were once filled! Always be mindful that someone doesn’t misses what they didn’t have to begin with. Distractions such as work, school, social media or various other activities can easily take you away from practicing and fulfilling being present with one another in your journey of “Relationship to Love.” Distractions when we are together is a fast way to invite boring and hostile into your relationship.
4. Focus on appreciation and gratitude rather than judging and complaining.
Lastly, try not to dump old baggage into a flourishing love. Old arguments, complaints, possessiveness, ungratefulness, and jealousy tend to chip good vibes that are being built. It creates a form of control that then allows distance in. We all know where distance is, it’s hard to travel back from! Don’t allow the control of pain and hurt to overcome what God ordains as a infinite love. Instead comfort each other and reassure that it is all in newness that the old is erased and forgiven. Forgiveness is key because it is for you and not the other person. If each person took the time to forgive no matter how many times you have been betrayed or hurt. It is in that “belief” or “believing” that you have hope in the change. If you don’t believe and there is a jot of doubt you will sink continuously. Doubt brings in fear and God did not give us the spirit of any fear; only hope, joy and conquering. Expressing gratitude and appreciation for your partner’s wonderful qualities that even led you to fall in love from the start will soon bring about maintaining those feelings and love you once felt and bring back the joy the devil tried to take away.
In understanding all these aspects you practice the importance of commitment, loyalty, appreciation, intimacy, passion and gratitude in a relationship. That is where relationships produce fruitful love. It is said that Doves (White doves are my favorite) find their mate for a lifetime and are symbolic for monogamy. In other words, the key to a long lasting marriage or relationship stems from not a lot of money or stability, but love, mutual trust and support. Yep, sounds about right to us too.
Through the good and bad! Faith in your partner and what God can produce. My favorite scripture is easier said than done but is all so possible. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8; 13 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protect, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. And now abide in faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest is love. Release what is in the past and open your arms to accept what is ahead with a loving heart! Continue to openly and joyfully love, show support, affection, attention and nurturing towards one another! Don’t be afraid love is a amazing embodiment not a shackle.